Redefining Marriage: Are Three Better than Two?

Adam Lyons says he’s “the luckiest man alive.” Why? Because the Londoner living in Austin, Texas, shares his life with two girlfriends, Brooke Shedd and Jane Shalakhova who are bi-sexual.

Lyons, the father of Shedd’s, 2 year old , Dante, is now expecting a baby boy with Shalakhova. The May 18th New York Post article extols their relationship called a “throuple.” The three share parenting duties as well as the same bed. They’re quoted as saying “For us, three definitely works better than two.”

The article suggests that this could be the future of relationships and parenting. Although they hope one day they could all be legally married, Lyons, Shedd and Shalakhova admit they still would like to involve a fourth partner in their sex life.

Lyons said: “We are still open in our relationship and we do sleep with other people outside the three of us.”

Some of us said when the definition of marriage was changed to include same-sex partners, it would open the doors to almost any kind of arrangement. If there is no moral standard, why not?

“When you affirm homosexual unions, logically you have to affirm this polyamorous arrangement,” observed Robert A. J. Gagnon, Associate Professor of New Testament studies at Pittsburgh Theological Seminary. “ It is the male-female binary foundation for valid sexual relationships that definitionally establishes the inherent duality of the sexual bond.”

Gagon further reasons, “If one dispenses with this foundation, one necessarily (whether consciously or not) dispenses with a limitation of two persons to a sexual union at any one time. Holdover retention of the latter must then be deemed irrational prejudice. You have already swallowed the camel; why choke on the gnat? On the other hand, if you recognize the immorality of polyamorous arrangements, perhaps you should rethink your embrace of homosexual relationships that eliminate a male-female requirement.”

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