Dealing with Failure

Let me ask you two questions: What do you do and where do you go when you fail?


Failure isn’t something we like to talk about too much. At times, it almost seems taboo to talk about it, and it’s completely understandable. No one likes to fail. I mean, it’s negative, depressing, discouraging, and brings up bad memories.

One thing that’s hard to get over when we fail is losing the progress we’ve made. It creates a sense of uncertainty and brings up the question “where do I go from here?”. But sometimes, I think we give failure way too much credit and think it ruins any chance of succeeding. Really, failure isn’t a dead end. It’s just a detour.

And that’s a good thing, because this means that we can change our view of failure from being an end result to, more often than not, a temporary setback. So, it’s time to stop ignoring failure. It’s just time to rethink it.

Failure is just part of being human. In every person’s journey, you’re going to see failure. Ask any person that has had any amount of success, and I can assure you that their best-selling album, or their successful multi-million dollar business probably weren’t their first ideas. Sometimes, it takes failing to set us up for having a Godly successful life. II Corinthians 12:9 says that, even when we fail, God’s grace is “sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Failure allows us to re-evaluate and reset, and we tend to see who we really are. So, when we ignore failure, we lose all the valuable lessons it teaches.

We can’t let failure cripple us, and we definitely can’t let the fear of failure paralyze us from doing something we want to do. There are three things we have to do when we fail: Get up, see why it didn’t work out, and move forward with that in mind. When we fail, we can’t pretend like it never happened. We have to pick ourselves up and try again.

The greatest thing to fight failure with is persistence.

It’s taking that step back and taking that deep breath that allows us to increase our chances of success.

So yeah, I’m gonna end it there and here’s what I want you to do: get some rest, relax, forget about today and just pick up tomorrow, because that’s the best time to hit the restart button, right? WRONG.

Sometimes, we give failure way too much power to control our day.

The thing that makes failure effective is when we throw away time thinking we have to start completely over. Don’t throw away a perfectly good day just something didn’t go quite right at 10 a.m. or 1 p.m. or even 6 or 7 at night. When it comes to change, there’s nothing special about tomorrow. The day or time you change doesn’t make a difference, as long as you change.

Basically, things go wrong. We mess up and fail. That’s our nature, and that’s just how life is. But, it’s how we respond to failure that really helps mold us into who we are.

So, to answer the question I asked earlier, where do you go when you fail?



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